Sunday, April 12, 2009

My boyfriend did nothing for our 1 year anniversary. Is that ok?

We%26#039;re young and just making ends meet. Long-distance on top of it, so I didn%26#039;t expect anything extravagant. He did send me flowers a few days later for a separate event, but I really feel I would rather have had him acknowledge the anniversary as way of showing how important me and our relationship are to him. Am I just completely over-reacting and expecting too much? We%26#039;ve never said %26quot;I love you%26quot; even though I really think I feel that way. But now I%26#039;m seriously questioning what exactly I mean to him. (I got him tickets to a concert he wants to go to and sent him a card.)

My boyfriend did nothing for our 1 year anniversary. Is that ok?
no, thats terrible! its not OK!
Reply:thats not cool u shud dump him for doing such a horrible thing
Reply:Maybe he%26#039;s just not that into you.
Reply:i dont think your over reacting...


i think i would act the same way


i mean if he acknowledged it..? tht would be totally fine, he wouldnt have to had do ne thing


but if he didnt say a word about it.. i would feel really sad
Reply:What can I say? We are guys. We forgit suff. I wouldnt make a big deal out of this, no worries:D
Reply:Anniversary





Woman: spend hours talking with friends on what to get for present, picking out just right card and primping and getting ready for event. Make scrapbook of first concert ticket stub, blah, blah, blah





Man: I can remember every Major League Batting Title winner since 1962, but when me anniversary?








The true test of a guy%26#039;s love is if he does nice things OFTEN for you--small, inexpensive things mainly. Not to bash on men, whom I happen to adore, but you do have to accept that this may not be your bf%26#039;s strong suit and accept him for who he is and try not to be insecure about it.
Reply:he must have forgot or hes got money issues on his mind tell him what you expect he can%26#039;t read your mind
Reply:aw that%26#039;s terrible.. yea i think he should have got you something or taken you somewhere you don%26#039;t need ANY money to say i care (you can do this in many ways) even a card would have been okay right? But girls can over look things like this i know i do, we expect guys to know what we are thinking and what we want when really they have no idea, don%26#039;t give up on the relationship but defiantly discuss this with him. Good luck!
Reply:if you guys have never acknowledged an anniversary before than i wouldn%26#039;t expect much but if you have before than he is a total jerk for not even saying happy anniversary..i would try to talk to him about it over the phone or maybe after the concert you are going to and see how much you mean to him..i hope that helps and sorry that he didn%26#039;t do anything:[
Reply:ask him if he remembered. my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship and we didn%26#039;t do anything big but we each got each other something. and talk to him that always seems to work when i am worried how he feels about me. for my relationship
Reply:Didn%26#039;t even remember it? Wow. No, that%26#039;s not ok.





I don%26#039;t expect gifts - I don%26#039;t need them. But at least an %26quot;I love you%26quot; and some good sex or something, ha ha.
Reply:My boyfriend and I rarely celebrate our anniversary. When we first started dating, I didn%26#039;t think it would even last. Therefore, I didn%26#039;t even mark down the date of our first kiss or our first date.





Therefore, we never celebrate. We are going to be together for 3 years at the end of the summer. This year, I plan on getting him something special. I%26#039;m just going to pick a day and that%26#039;s it. I know it%26#039;s a little late to start. But, I feel 3 years more then half way to 5 years. That%26#039;s got to mean something.





Talk to him. Did you make a big deal of it. B/c we never had a date, I never had a reason to mention our anniversary.
Reply:yes i can understand why you would feel hurt he missed your anniversary together yet you remembered and got him tickets to his concert. even if money is tight for him he could have sent you a card with his own words in it or make you a poem or at least call and talk to you on that day.





Perhaps his man isn%26#039;t into events such as this and takes them as no biggy. and for you they are. lots of married couples get upset when there spouses dont%26#039; remember such events. You may want to let him know how you feel. and see if he will be more thoughtful .. maybe he wont%26#039; and this is his laid back approach .,but either way if your not like that this won%26#039;t sit well for you.





good luck.
Reply:If he can send flowers for the other event, he can remember your 1 year anniversary and at least send a cute card and say %26quot;I Love You%26quot; or something. I would be heartbroken if I was you. It is true, guys tend to suffer from %26quot;clueless man syndrome%26quot; and forget things all the time. However, its your 1 year anniversary! You remembered it, so can he. I would talk to him and let him know you are hurt. If you keep the hurt inside and don%26#039;t talk about it, you will resent him and be hurt even more the next time he forgets something. Nip this in the bud and tell him how you feel. Hopefully, once he sees how much it means to you, he will make a concerted effort to remember these things. If he doesn%26#039;t, maybe he isn%26#039;t the one for you.



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